|Posted by Kate on May 21, 2012 at 6:15 PM|
I'm not going going even to say how I heard the argument, but a certain father asked his son today if he was a "faggot" because he goes around complaining all the time. I don't know if the son is really that lazy and whiny or if the father is just overtly condescending. Different cultures demand that men must never do anything womanly, from playing dress up as children to being a stay at home dad.
My problem is this; I don't have the answers, but homosexuality can't be created; it just is a part of the person. I know this because from the time I was 16 or so, until I had relationship with my ex at 22, I thought I was at least bi-curious. Turns out I wasn't. But I did not choose such feelings
By saying that it is okay for girls to like boy things, but that it's not okay in the vice versa, they are also suggesting women are weak and still stereotyped. That will only further delude the child into thinking he is superior to female peers.
Making accusations and not letting kids play the way they want only invokes shame. Open conversation with genuine understanding and compassion is necessary between all children and their parents; especially in their teens (At least I feel that way!).
In adulthood, it is one thing for a man to not want children, but for a woman? Oh no, that's selfish! She must hate babies! Why doesn't she want the most rewarding job in the world, being a mother? You know why? Maybe she wants to be a better aunt by not having children of her own. Maybe she can't and is uncomfortable with adoption. Maybe she loves the FREEDOM to be child free for life. It's none of your business why and judging her is wrong. If she's a good person, what else matters?
In summary, trying limit a person's interests and insulting their choices and personal characteristics only makes YOU look inferior. How do you like that?!